No pattern whatsoever. My lover is INTJ, which isn't supposed to work at all, but it does... and it's amazing.

G

I can't seem to find a permanent match, and it's very unsettling. I was married to an ISTJ and another ENTJ (not at the same time, I'm quick to add). The ISTJ kept trying to get me to "settle down, be more "stable" less ambitious, etc. ,and the ENTJ kept trying to prove something - trying to always compete with me to prove he was smarter, etc. etc. He was also bipolar which didn't help.
I think every temperament has its strengths and weaknesses, and it's a function more of maturity than type in learning to appreciate and accept others. As an ENTJ woman, I realize I'm rare and am going to always be in a leadership position in my career (which, along with the salary is still intimidating to a lot of men) but I find that in close relationships I have a desire to be less "in charge" and more part of a team. The ENTJ strengths - passion, loyalty, enthusiasm, commitment - should translate well into relationships if we can find a partner secure and mature enough not to feel "less than" or intimidated. We're all God's creatures...

Dating.
Hmm good idea.
Any takers? :-)

Male please.

Unfortunately it seems I've unwittingly emasculated representatives from pretty much every other type. Men seem to be really attracted to me and then suddenly or gradually the start to get really insecure. Probably for me I need to find another ENTJ but they seem to be either obsessed with their own success (who could blame them, really) or married to a young trophy wife or someone who latched on to their considerable charisma.

Sometimes we ENTJs can be hard to "get a grip on" in relationships which bugs the heck out of codependent types.

I have lots of good friends of all types, though, who seem to accept me in all my whirling dervish ways.

I've read that anyone in the "NT" column might be compatible together.
There is a school of thought that it also depends on what stage of life you are in. As we mature (HA!) we go through different stages of exploring the opposite of the letter in our Myers Briggs make up. Letting the other be more dominant to try it out after we are secure with who we are and let that be submissive per say.

Who we date could be dependent on where we are in life. In our fist stage we are learning to be comfortable in our respective ENTJ roll. This is when we might choose a mate that would be compatible with that roll we are learning to control. Later on in life having proved that, we might want to be with some one we can sit back and enjoy our accomplishments and not have to challenge the world with.

G

I was married to an INTJ for 4 years. Divorced, then remaried the same woman...for another four years..then divorced again. Engaged to an INTP before that went totaly fowl (I will never do that again).

My current hypothesis is that I should be looking for an ENXX.....I think Ms. EnXX and I would do swimmingly.

We could probably take over the planet in a matter of weeks .

It's hard to say, I am Sapeosexual also, so ...I can not go near a woman with anything lower than a genius IQ and an inclination to wiggle her brain at me.

But im a special case..

Dating is hard for me, I wish I could say "I prefer not to make women jump through hoops" but it would be a complete lie since thats basicaly whatI love doing.

Cheers,

Ike